Sunday, October 20, 2013

a letter to my kids on bullying

I know you guys know firsthand about bullying.  The names...the phone calls we've gotten late at night...the stealing from your backpack because the boy they liked had a crush on you, even the black eyes you've gotten just because someone didn't like you talking to their friend.  I'm not going to lie, I wish I could say it gets better, but in reality it doesn't.  I will say it does get easier to stand up to it though.  I've heard you crying at night, fighting with me not to go to school and begging me to talk to your teachers.   I've not given up.  You shouldn't either.  Sometimes you get bullied because the person doing the bullying does not know anything but that.  Maybe their home life isn't as great as yours and they don't have anyone to stand up for them.  I know that doesn't mean much now, but in years you will look back and tell yourself "I know why they did it".  Bullying hurts.   It hurts a lot.  Sometimes you just have to take a deep breath and say "STOP".  Enough is enough.  With the internet, it's even easier to bully someone.  Don't let them drag you down.  Be strong. Be brave. Be a friend to the bully...maybe that's all they want.

Wednesday, July 24, 2013

Watch yourself when you go to the restroom in a public place

You never know what is going to happen.
Yesterday I went to visit uncle Billy at the nursing home. 
Emily and Jack went along for the ride and to talk to him while I went to talk to social worker.
I had to pee first.
So I found the restroom.
Heard the door open.
Light went out.
Door shuts.
Light was still out.
My heart is racing. 
I yell hello??
But no answer.
I have visions of being strangled by wheelchair straps and my body being found by Emily.
Lets face it...scary movies put all sorts of thoughts into ones mind.
So, since it is pitch dark, I pull out my piece of crap phone and use what little light it puts out and try to find the light switch.
All the while, I'm hoping no one is going to reach out and grab me.
I find the light switch and turn around to wash my hands
I scream bloody murder.
Emily is just standing there.
Not saying anything.
3 people came running in the restroom to see if I was ok.
I choke out "I am fine"
and listen to Emily laughing hysterically.
She thought it was funny.
I was just glad I got to pee in the toilet, or I'm pretty certain I would have peed myself.
We walk out, her still laughing. 
And another nurse comes up
Are you sure you are ok? 
She definitely gets her sense of humor from me.
Paybacks come when you least expect though.

Sunday, July 21, 2013

It's 11:58 PM on Saturday the 20th of July

And why am I awake?
Let's start at the beginning...
In 2 minutes, Emily will be 18.
Right now, she is at McGuires with Phil, her favorite cousin Heather, her 2 friends and Jack.
And I am home.
By choice though.
I had planned on having other kids in bed.
Did not happen.
First, I left my coffee in the van when I swapped it with Phil's jeep.
Came home.
Gave the kids an hour more of what they were doing (they were quiet), and they went to bed without a fight.
Oh, I didn't mention that we have Heather's dog here did I?
And that he likes to cry.
And he is LOUD!
So I put him in one of the kennels.
And he cries and cries.
Morris comes in.
Mommy do you have any earplugs?
Bean comes in 5 minutes later asking the same thing.
So I go to where the dog is thinking I will just take him in Emily's room and deal with it until they get home.
And the kennel is covered in ughhh.
I told Heather feeding the dog human food is never a good idea.
Moved the dog to the other kennel.
Still getting serenaded.
I feel the dark circles under my eyes becoming more pronounced.
Will it ever stop?
Emily is 18 now.
Happy Birthday.

Wednesday, April 10, 2013

When Life gives you lemons...

I make cupcakes.
Life has been crazy lately. Crazy.
End of February, my uncle had a stroke.  A bad one.
As my luck had it, I lost my keys with his apartment key on it, so we had to have the firefighters break in his window.  
A couple weeks later my grandpa had multiple mini strokes.
My uncle is still with us.  My grandpa's funeral was two weeks ago.
My uncle is stubborn.  He still makes me laugh every day.
He keeps us busy. 

Emily got her braces she not beautiful!

Jack went to Jr. Prom with his girlfriend, Bobbi.

Mr. GQ

Bean lost her bracelet around St. Patty's day...self explanatory note.

And Morris broke his his nose.  Yep, Life is good.

Sunday, January 27, 2013

Nibblet...a love story

Just a short sweet story...
Our street is famous for strays.  People drop off cats and they multiply like you wouldn't believe.  We've taken many to the Humane society, and a couple little kittens we've found were just too weak and we had to bury them.  Late last year we heard meowing on the side of the house.  I checked it out and found this itty bitty kitty.  It looked like a little bear.  I left it there a couple hours in hopes that the mom would find him, but she never came back, so a half hour before closing time, we took it to the humane society.  The people there said it was well taken care of, no fleas and full belly, so most likely someone dropped it off.  The assured us it would find a home, but because it was so tiny it had to be fostered.   The following week we heard meowing again.  From under the house this time.  Jack crawled under and came back out with a tiny little orange kitten.  I'm thinking it was probably from the same litter maybe.  Humane society was closed, but as luck had it, his girlfriend's mom was a foster for kittens.  So she had us drop it off at her house and she was going to nurse it until it was big enough for the humane society to find it a home.  Jack's girlfriend (Bobbi) fell in love with it.  2 weeks before Christmas Bobbi's mom told Bobbi that it was time for Nibblet to go and he left just like that.  Bobbi was heartbroken, but a post on Facebook told everyone that Nibblet would always be her baby.  Christmas eve found Nibblet back in the arms of Bobbi.  All because someone dropped it off at our house and the kitten was too small to be adopted...
True story

Saturday, January 5, 2013


Has it really been this long?  So much has happened, I don't even know where to start, so I guess I will just throw out some random updates.  Fall was busy as far as weddings were concerned.  Someone (I'm not mentioning any names...ahem ME) got a job.  Don't get me wrong, I miss spending all day at the school volunteering, but it's helping pay bills.  If you ever need a P.I., forensic consultant, training in various crime scene methods, or someone to review a crime scene...the people I work for have you covered, and I'll answer the phone.
If that wasn't enough, kids keep us busy.  On top of me picking and dropping off my kids at 3 different schools, I've been picking up 3 kids extra and going to a 4th school.  It's hectic and I hate all the driving, but it's helping out a friend.  I've been taking my uncle to daily radiation treatments at the cancer center on top of his normal doctors appts. as well.  Happy to say his voice is coming back a bit.
Winter break was a bit more frustrating than I would have liked.  Poor Bean had it rough.  Right before school ended she came down with a mild case of chicken pox...I say mild because she's already had it and the shot before.  She scratched one and it turned into a staph infection.  So after almost completing the antibiotics, her little body decided to have a severe allergic reaction and she was covered head to toe in an ugly looking rash.  Thankfully it's faded a bit and should be completely gone before school starts.   Now her gums are hurting where she has a molar coming through.

Sunday, September 16, 2012


Last month (my birthday to be precise) Phil and I flew out to D.C. without the kids.  We had a great time and our "office" window was awesome.  We took up the tourist name for a day and even did the metro.  We saw the monuments, White House, Capital, the Smithsonian museums etc., but mostly enjoyed our time with our good friends who let us invade their home and stay with them for the week.  On a side note, did you know that Night at the Museum wasn't not even filmed in the actual museum?  It was filmed partly in the Air and Space museum, but the majority of the museum was filmed in Canada. Those pictures will be posted at a later date.

 Then we took a day and went to D.C.'s neighbor Virgina, and just enjoyed the falls. Great Falls National Park is a place I highly recommend if you are in the area.  It's beautiful.  The couple that flew us out there for their engagement pictures were so cute.